I have so much on my heart to share; the question is, where do I begin? The Holy Spirit has been prompting me for quite some time to make it a priority to share, posting much more often on the Bridge of Hope Ministry (BOHM) Blog. I haven’t been listening… so as to do! No more excuses… time to make God’s priorities, my priorities.
But, again, where do I start? Often during my morning devotions, God has spoken to my heart, and I think, I need to share this… or share that. Or I read posts and comments on various ministry blogs and websites; then think about responding but don’t because of the time it will take. Then I just forget about it.
Recently, as I prayed about getting back at posting on the blog, it became clear where to start. And really, this has been on my heart since February when I was on a Christian radio program, Stand Up For The Truth. That day, as I began to share, people began to call in with questions such as: so, do you believe a person is not born homosexual? Did you choose to be homosexual? Would you share what specific things (specific experiences) in your childhood that you think helped cause the development of same-sex attractions/feelings in you? In a nutshell, all these questions were about how I became a lesbian! As I drove home, I remember thinking, isn’t anyone interested in how God changed my life… how I came out of homosexuality… how the Son set me free (John 8:34, 36). Understanding how the love of Jesus set me free, and changed me from the inside out, will help equip others for ministry in this area.
As I speak with believers at conferences, it’s quite evident people are not sure how to minister to someone they know who says they are homosexual. Typically, I will ask, is this person saved… are they born again? The answer to this question will determine where your ministry to this person will begin. Just as Jesus told Nicodemus, “you must be born again” (John 3:3), so must this struggler God has brought into their lives! It is the first and most important step to finding freedom from homosexuality. And, yes, it was the most important step in my journey out of homosexuality. Freedom comes through Jesus Christ! And typically, that means the need for someone to share the gospel!
Many who have come to Christ out of the gay lifestyle have shared that those who influenced them in their decision for Christ did so primarily through love and patience. And they did not make homosexuality the primary issue, because it is not. The primary issue is sin. My friend, who shared the gospel with me, influenced my decision for Christ in just that manner. She evangelized; she did not moralize! Yes, she shared the truth about homosexuality. But she did not dwell on it; there was something much more important she was hoping to share.
Here’s what happened. As we sipped our morning coffee and talked, religion and spiritual “stuff” came up. Eventually I felt lead to tell her the lifestyle I was leading and the trials of the past couple years. She listened and then said something like this: “Ruth, I believe it (homosexuality) is wrong because the Bible says it is. God loves you and so do I, but that is something you need to take to God.” She left it at that, never mentioning it again. The next day, God gave her an open door to share the gospel! We did not talk about homosexuality at all; but she did talk about sin. She explained how we are all sinners and how Jesus bridged the gap between a holy God and unholy, sinful man! The next day, on my own, reading through the Four Spiritual Laws tract, thinking through all the scriptures and their application to my life, I recognized my need for Jesus. I prayed and accepted Him as my Savior and Lord.
So, if you know someone who is homosexual, pray for the Holy Spirit to draw this person to Christ. Pray for God to use you and give you an open door to share the gospel. When that open door comes, don’t moralize by over-emphasizing the issue of homosexuality, telling them they need Jesus because homosexuality is perverse, it’s unnatural, it’s wrong, it’s an abomination, you shouldn’t live that way, etc. Had my friend done that with me, she never would have had an opportunity to get to the real issue and to share the gospel. She truly spoke the truth in love and then took advantage of the open door God gave her to focus on and to lay out through the scriptures, the real issue … we are all sinners (Rom. 3:23), and “God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Rom. 5:8) and more!
Therefore, just as we approach any other sinner who needs Jesus with love, grace, mercy, kindness, and courtesy, we do the same for those living the homosexual lifestyle. Evangelize… don’t moralize!
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